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A couple years ago, I found out that one of my closest friends was being cheated on. She was soon-to-be-engaged, but there was some hesitation from her boyfriend. He was always finding non-related excuses to delay a proposal.
Her future mother-in-law did not like her and tried to introduce her son to new girls. That is how I came in the picture.
Her friend asked me to consider him. I was appalled. I was not interested but was stressed for my friend.
We were close friends for several years and saw each other a few times a month. As much as I knew this information was tough to share, it felt wrong to hear her plan a wedding knowing not everyone is on the same page.
After a few days of contemplating, I told her what I knew.
She continued dating him, but shortly after, she dumped me. She came up with something trivial out of the blue and ghosted me. She had a lot of anger and resentment towards me, that was clearly brewing for months. This is not unique at all and it is common to be the scapegoat.
It has been over a year since we last spoke, but I still feel the affects. She has convinced mutual friends to Unfollow me on Instagram, or to stop inviting me to events. Socially ostracizing someone because you don’t like…
